Livification : May 2014

Saturday, 24 May 2014

Are we chasing popularity?

Being aware and connected had never been so much fun. Acute addiction and ever increasing usage of internet has transformed into a really cool term called 'Netizens'. We're living in a virtually globalized world, which seems closer. Just imagine! A no internet day. Suddenly, people will understand the meaning of being 'Free'. Time and social media never wait for anyone. Constant posts tick along. As active users, we're highly selective about the content that we post and absorb. With a plethora of mediums to chose from, the manner in which each person utilizes his or her time on social media speaks volumes. But are we jeopardizing our long-term interests subconsciously?

For instance, a girl boasts about her number of Facebook friends, which makes her more popular than her female counterparts. A celebrity is judged on the basis of number of followers on Twitter. You tend to follow someone by the number of followers they have i.e. directly proportional to the plausibility. An active Instagram user is excessively worried about constant returns to scale of followers. A sudden increase in twenty followers a day could lead to exultation. A follower is traditionally someone who follows your ideas, beliefs and thoughts. The new followers or ghost followers are a mere addition to socially acceptable numbers. Quantitative rat race has overcome qualitative aspects such as academic proficiency, intellectual capabilities and so on. 2014 elections brought a new perspective to the table, Are tweeters voters too? Will Facebook fans be opinion leaders in the real world? We'll never know till we chose to let the cat out of the bag. Nowadays, anything is possible, even buying followers. You can judge the credibility for yourself.

It is absolutely an individuals volition to spend their social media time as per their discretion. But do give these series of questions a thought. Do you often think about how bad a picture was because it did not get as many likes as expected? Are you more comfortable in approaching virtually than in real life? and Do you form perceptions about people on the basis of numbers they have? If yes, then there isn't anything alarming about it but a little bit of change in perspective won't harm either. The tendency to become more inclined to acceptance by people and more self conscious about yourself rises. Spend quality time in whichever way you like and just jettison the number game. Focus on better and useful pursuits in life.

Nevertheless, the world is more compact and closely knitted than ever before. Fame is a by-product of accomplishments be it real or online space. Chasing popularity can make one fall into the deeper pit of social acceptance. Just think about what your life what look like without social media and take some time out to do that instead. Too much or too little of anything can be harmful. Just be yourself, be candid and be complacent, paparazzi will follow your way.

Now you may like or tweet this!! :-p

A CAUSE THAT IS CLOSE TO MY HEART

Having born and brought up in resurgent India, I have been really fortunate to be born in a family, where I feel protected, loved and empowered. Life has been a blessing and dreams seem to be attainable. When I sit and contemplate about life hearing every heart beat, a rush of a powerful feeling flows across my body. So what is it that many girls like me have, which others don't? Just by being born to a particular family and in a certain place is fate, but education beholds the strength to change what has been bestowed by god. It is a potent weapon that is mightier than any sword or other impasse in life. India is a land of rich heritage, which her many young girls don't even know about.
65.46% females can read and write, as per Census 2011. However, education is beyond the basics. It is the intellectual capacity and the power to form their own opinions. Hence, data cuts out a really sorry figure. Enumerate times the Indian education system has been rightfully pointed fingers at. Then what is it that we really need? Communication. The communication network in India, has been highly ineffective in selling the idea of female education. The targets have been incorrectly identified as the parents, who are circumscribed in the vicious circle of poverty and fail to comprehend the essence of the message. Undoubtedly, government has taken initiatives to counter this via personal gains. But it hasn't worked well in terms of real education. The young nascent minds need to be given the strength to dream. DREAM is the first step towards achieving. Power of dreams will create a thirst for knowledge which will break all shackles fettered upon young women.

Another thing that is very close to my heart is, financial independence. Folded palms giving is much more respected than those ever ready to receive. With an intent to protect, laws have granted women right over her husbands wealth. But they fail to grant her the status she rightfully deserves. Living with dignity and head up high is only possible with financial independence. We often speak about equality, but it cannot be selectively pro women. They too need to practice what they preach. If you want something get it.

One man, one woman, one government cannot change the state overnight. It would be a struggle for decades to come to change the iconoclastic conventions. 50% of India's population is it's path to its development. There is no to do list to make a change. Contribute in whichever way you can because every drop fills an ocean.

Thursday, 22 May 2014

Know Your Version- Are you black, white or grey?

More often than not, we are bewildered about ourselves. The way we think about us is a ramification of other peoples perceptions. We tend to rationalize on the basis of what others think or simply as a result of incorrect self-identification. Personality is soul-deep and generalizing on the basis of few odd incidents could be catastrophic in the longer run. If you're vivacious and effervescent, you are an extrovert. To the contrary, if you are mild and quiet, you're an introvert. And if you are neither one of them, then you're a nobody. These are iconoclastic conventions, which no longer hold true. Human energy can be referred to in terms of level of extroversion, introversion and ambiversion.

Black Extroversion:- The connotation 'Black' is a symbolism of depth. It is depth of the unknown and imagination of a different World around themselves. 'People' are their biggest strengths. Just as the solar objects derive its energy from the sun, being around people is a source of energy for these people. So if an extrovert is the last man alive, he is most likely to die of desolation. Conversations are their food. They are blood-sucking vampires, who will drain your energies but are unlikely to feel effete. The weapon for dealing with these people are mega-extroverts, who are most likely to surpass their energy levels. They are great starters, who'll fill up your tummy leaving no room for more communication. They are so busy talking and entertaining , there is no full stop! Their biggest weakness indeed, confining themselves. Some self-discipline and self-control can be their sole life saviors from this state of being. Nevertheless, they are larger than life and soul of any gathering. World would be a Zombieland without these people.

White Introversion:-White is White, self explanatory. The World is full of introverts in disguise who are often not shy, but refrain from engaging in unnecessary conversations. They are not bashful but highly selective about their word count, both quantitatively and qualitatively. Their recharge voucher is the least expensive of all i.e. revitalizing by being alone or with very few trusted people. Best part about it being independence from the constant dependence to make you happy. Infact, they are likely to be the most complacent about themselves and least likely to be depressed. Extroverts are improbable to enjoy with these people and deprecating towards them. Simply, because their is a dichotomy of energies. However, a perfect exemplification of 'Opposites Extract' as they strike the best balance as couples. Nevertheless, the smartest beings who listen and think more than talk incessantly, without any analytics.

Grey Ambiversion:- Grey's are a paradox of life. For instance, Ms Grey has a huge set of friends who she likes to socialize with and is equally content doing nothing. They are drained of being around people too much and being alone too much. Whether reading a book alone or hanging out in the mall, the level of pleasure is the same. If they are put on the weighing scale with half an introvert and half an extrovert, it should balance nineteen-twenty. Non-ambi's find it the hardest to understand these people and keep at par with their balance. At one moment, you'll find these people to be chatterboxes and at the other lost in their own world. The source of energy for these people is balance in life, which is their biggest strength.

Now that you have identified these three distinct personality types, this is how you should deal with them:-

EXTROVERTS-

Understand their need for plenty of social engagements and outings in their daily schedule.
Try and engage into a lot of conversation with these people to know about what their World is all about. This is their need, so cater to it.
Simple, let them be around lots of people.

INTROVERTS-

Please give them lots of space to recycle themselves.
Their daily schedules should not be very eventful.
Respect their silence and do not pressurize them to talk when they want to be lost into their World of imagination.

AMBIVERTS-

Balance, balance and some more balance. Allow them to rejuvenate via social engagements and also respect their private time when they need to restore.
Accommodate with their needs and identify signals. Accept it when they need to return home after a wholesome time and when they are counting minutes to meet up with their friends.
Variety is the spice of life- knowledge, party, interesting, couch, experiences, television and so on.

People are born with these personality types. Neither is their success a result of or failure a detriment of who they are, if at all, substance lies in what they do.Whether you're an extrovert, introvert or an ambivert, play along what you have. Make your strengths your USP and weaknesses into opportunities. Meanwhile, draw out the empathy card and vicariously experience the feelings, thoughts and attitudes of others. After all, the World is a potpourri of diverse people who neutralize the harmful radiations of A-Particular beings.

Live and let live.